{"id":431,"date":"2018-10-04T15:02:49","date_gmt":"2018-10-04T14:02:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cdcoaching.co.uk\/beta\/?p=431"},"modified":"2020-11-25T14:40:54","modified_gmt":"2020-11-25T14:40:54","slug":"are-you-a-multipotentialite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cdcoaching.co.uk\/beta\/are-you-a-multipotentialite\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you a multipotentialite?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Ever heard about the concept of the \u2018hummingbird\u2019 also known as the \u2018multipotentialite\u2019?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It was in fact a coaching session I had with a fellow coach that helped discover what I finally was\u2026..Yes, you\u2019ve heard of me! I am one of these weird species\u2026but, what on earth is this multipotentialite malarkey? If like me, you haven\u2019t a clue, please do read on!<\/p>\n

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When Alessandro Arosio recommended me to watch a Ted Talk by Emilie Wapnick<\/a>, I had no idea what I was going to find. What I didn\u2019t know, that this 20-minute video would change my life forever! <\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Here\u2019s some context, I was telling him about my ever-changing careers, not knowing what I should do next, my doubts, my anxiety around not sticking to anything in particular. My work story goes a long way, if you look at my CV, you really wouldn\u2019t know what job to offer me! From office admin to customer coordinator,  project manager to teacher, then progress coach and finally life coaching to name just a few.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I also shared with my coach my many, many interests.  Woodwork (making a coffee table, a cabinet, a picture frame), making a violin (which took me 3 years!) taking my Spanish A level, doing the CELTA course, learning HTML code,  doing a Swedish Massage course, learning Access database, QuarkXPress, Photoshop, Excel, Vegas movie software\u2026and the list goes on\u2026<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ok, so what are all these connections and why Emily\u2019s Ted Talk.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Well, what Emily explains is that some of us are not meant to specialise in one thing, that we can pursue different fields and passions and basically that it\u2019s ok to be the way we are and that if you are not born knowing you wanted to be an astronaut, then you don\u2019t have to specialise in anything in particular.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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WOW, what a relief that was for me and I kid you not\u2026tears rolled down onto my face \u2013 they were not tears of sadness but of pure joy!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Looking into other areas of my life, I realised that there too I was being a hummingbird\u2026try a bit of that, a bit of this. Yes, you are right, this way you never master anything and I would reply \u2013 and so what?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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What if the joy comes from actually experimenting and not just doing that one thing you are meant to be good at for the rest of your life. In sports, I went from ice-skating to gymnastics, learnt to ski, cross-country ski, mono-ski and snowboard, watersports involved sailing, windsurfing and surfing, I touched upon many ball sports, from football age 8, to basketball to tennis, to volleyball and being French our favourite one Handball\u2026\u2026\u2026.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Relationships and friendships were the same. I have many friends from around the world from many nationalities and backgrounds. I could not settle for a few friends, I was avid to meet more people and stay in touch with them all. Travelling is ANOTHER passion, same again, I couldn\u2019t just stick to one place, according to some app I have travelled 6% of the world!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Have you ever been told that you should stick to one thing at a time?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Have you ever been told that you should always finish what you have started?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Have you been frowned upon when you said you were starting something new?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Have you been called crazy because you decided to quit a \u201cdecent\u201d full time job, which was really convenient to get to and you loved?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Well,  I have.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I am the type of person who cannot finish a book and actually have about 5 books on the go. I still buy them, feel excited about them and then somehow even the easiest read, I give up.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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This illustrates how frustrated I have been with myself. How couldn\u2019t I finish a book such as 50 shades of grey\u2026people read this in a day or so, right?\u2026I only managed half the book\u2026same with Eat, Pray and Love\u2026I get bored\u2026What am I trying to say is that YES it\u2019s good to persevere, I have many, many times, but it\u2019s also salutary to learn to let go! For my own joy, fulfilment and sanity.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\u201cAll these years, I have given up on dreams, on relationships, on jobs and careers and although each time I followed my gut, I felt bad about it. Society\u2019s pressure, people, relatives all made me question my decisions\u201d.<\/p>\n

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When I was young, I wanted to live in Australia (I still haven\u2019t been)\u2026I wanted to become a fully qualified French teacher, did everything towards it\u2026even took my Maths GCSE at age 50 and eventually decided to become a coach! I can hear you say\u2026\u201dthat must have felt rubbish, imagine doing all these evening classes doing maths for nothing\u201d!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Well, actually, no it doesn\u2019t \u2013 because I just go with the flow and don\u2019t regret anything about my decisions and where I have put my energy in because at the very moment, at the time, it was the right thing to do for me, so why should I regret what was my thinking at the time?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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My biggest doubt was the story we are constantly being sold, that of Passion and Purpose\u2026\u201dfollow your passion, find your purpose\u201d. I felt awful and guilty because when I kept changing mine, I felt I wasn\u2019t getting anywhere and shame on me for not finding my purpose. \u201cYou never stick at anything\u201d\u2026so now here\u2019s my second moment of revelation.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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After discovering that I was a \u2018multipotentialite\u2019, I realised it was ok to have what one calls a portfolio career and that you didn\u2019t have to pick just the one. So now I am still a teacher, a coach and even an examiner and might become a writer (you tell me?!) or a masseuse-coach (I can create whatever job I want, can\u2019t I?). But the discovery doesn\u2019t stop here! Because I love researching so much, I stumbled upon another very inspiring video by Elizabeth Gilbert<\/span><\/a> (yes the lady who wrote the famous Eat, Pray, love). There she explains how stressful it is when you don\u2019t have one calling, one passion and how she used to tell people how one should find their passion. Now she has realised how agonising it is for some of us not to have that one passion.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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When I was desperately looking for my purpose, I started to worry: \u201cso, Carole, now you are a coach, what\u2019s next?\u201d the inner critical voice was asking inside my head. But thankfully I am now happy with my life choices, my curiosity keeps changing and as Elizabeth Gilbert puts it\u2026all this ever-changing direction might well take me somewhere, maybe one day I will find this sense of purpose and my true passion. Until then, you might say, what a waste of time, money and energy\u2026well I reply to all the sceptics out there that actually it\u2019s all ok, because all these different arrows to my bow help me towards my target and make me who I am today, full of strengths and assets\u2026which I don\u2019t know yet what it exactly is, but it\u2019s fine as maybe the wind is blowing in all sorts of direction, but as long as I am trying new things, I am alive, molding myself and enjoying the ride.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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So if like me, you are questioning yourself because you feel you are different and don\u2019t follow a linear road, well let\u2019s not be ashamed of who we are and embrace it and as Emily says: \u201cthe world needs people like us\u201d. And finally, this also applies to my current role as a coach which I am so passionate about; I was asking the founder of my coaching school, Nick Bolton, if I should do one thing at a time and pursue one idea after another since I have so many, in order to possibly find my niche, and what he says was really reassuring. He replied:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cwell you might not be as efficient and successful if you follow more than one idea at a time but what is important is that you enjoy the way you do things\u201d.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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So here I am using the saying \u201cwhatever rocks your boat\u201d, loving the process, talking to many different types of people, coaching all ages, gender, in various areas of their lives and yes one day I might find my true calling. In the meantime, I am at your service!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I feel so good now that I have this evening shared this insight with you all, as for me it was a true life changing experience and I don\u2019t want people to feel as miserable as I did and certainly don\u2019t want others to wait until they reach their 50s to discover what took me so long to realise. So, I am forever grateful to have followed my instinct and asked Alessandro to carry on coaching me after one practicum coaching session. Et Vive le Coaching!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I am curious to find out your comments, so please do share your thoughts below on what was for me a moment of true enlightenment.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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